Mama Motivation Podcast

Eliminate Time Leaks & Focus Energy Into Where it Matters Most

May 09, 2019 Episode 2
Mama Motivation Podcast
Eliminate Time Leaks & Focus Energy Into Where it Matters Most
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Mama Motivation Podcast
Eliminate Time Leaks & Focus Energy Into Where it Matters Most
May 09, 2019 Episode 2
Featuring wisdom & insights inspired by Mel Robbins, Rachel Hollis, Brene Brown, Tony Robbins, Danielle Laporte, Elizabeth Gilbert, Heather Chauvin, Natalie Hodson, Glennon Doyle Melton and Sheena Walenta's personal life experiences.
We are all busy, our plates are so full. So how do you manage your time effectively so you can accomplish important things each day?
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We are all busy, our plates are so full. So how do you manage your time effectively so you can accomplish important things each day? In this episode I discuss how to identify time leaks you may currently have, and how to reshape your thinking of where your time could be better spent.

The quote of the episode is "Live the life others won't, so you can live the life others can't."  Meaning, if you put in the work and do things others won't, like adjust your schedule, spend less time on social media, then you can re-allocate that time to things that truly matter, like your children, your marriage, your career, you hobbies, etc.  so you can live a more fulfilling life that others can't.

Speaker 1:
0:02
Hey ladies, today's episode I just wanted to pop on really quickly. This one will probably be a short one because I need to pick up my kids. Um, but I wanted to chat a little bit about time and energy and being intentional where we spend our time. I feel so often we as mothers, we say we don't have time, we don't have time. Certainly we're incredibly busy with taking care of children. Some of us are working, taking care of the household, taking care of your significant others and always taking care of people. But a lot of times we do have time leaks or energy leaks in our days where we could potentially make up some time and other areas and be more intentional where we spend our time. So let's get into the APP.
Speaker 2:
0:56
So,
Speaker 1:
1:07
okay. So I wanted to walk you through what I am doing right now to move the needle on my goals into the direction that I want to. So we all have different seasons of our lives. And in those different seasons, you know, maybe you're 100% focus is breastfeeding your newborn baby and um, surviving early baby childhood for others. You know, maybe you'll, you're starting your own business, uh, a direct marketing business for others. You know, maybe you're becoming an entrepreneur or you're focusing your time and energy on, uh, your body and your health. So all of you, Mama's, I know we all have goals and we all have dreams. And so it's so important for us to take action on those dreams. I'm going to say that again. We can write, we can journal, we can think and dream. But it is so important for us to take action on those dreams and without being intentional of our time, it's so easy to not move the needle where you want to go.
Speaker 1:
2:13
So what I'm doing and what I suggest that you do is two things. You know, one go about your life like you normally have for about four to five days and journal all of your time. What you do in a day, what time you wake up, what you do in the morning, what your morning routine is. You know, even when you sit down and watch TV and you sit down and do social media, um, you know, all the times that you're working, laundry, kids, dinner, all of that stuff and journal your life for four to five days and then look at it and see where those time leaks are. Um, you know, if you sat down to look at social media five minutes and he really spent 45 minutes doing it, then that could potentially be a time leak for you. If it's serving your life.
Speaker 1:
3:10
Like you're right now are really into self care and you're resting and you're sick and um, you intentionally sat down for that time and said, you know, right now this is really serving me then power to you. But I believe for the most of us, it's just a complete mind. I mean, you sit down for five minutes and you look down in and 45 minutes or an hour has gone by and it's not really serving you in your life. So look at those time leaks and find out, you know, where you can make up some of those times. Then. So that's sort of the, the phase one is journal your life for four to five days. All of your time. You know, are you sleeping in? What are you doing in the evening? And look at the time that is spent on areas that are not serving you.
Speaker 1:
4:04
The next phase is identifying four to five categories or buckets in your life that you should be spending your time on. Um, certainly there's a million things that are important, but pick something this week or for the next two weeks that you're going to say, okay, these are the four main categories that I'm going to spend time on. And at the end of the podcast, I'll tell you what my five are. And then they change every two weeks or so depending on what's going on. But you will want to set categories. So let's say it's, you know, building your business is one, spending time on your significant other is to being a really patient, kind parent to your children is three for you. You know, maybe it's taken care of your household for. So whatever those are. Um, set those categories and then look at your journal and eliminate everything else that you've been spending time on that isn't in those buckets.
Speaker 1:
5:07
Now keep in mind, this isn't for life. This is just a for two weeks or so, but you're looking at where can I spend my time more effectively to move the needle towards my goals? Somebody said this quote and I might botch it, so it's live the life others won't so that you can live the life. Others can't live the life others won't, so you can live the life others can't. Meaning not everybody is going to get up an hour earlier so they have an hour extra time to do their passion project. Not Everybody is going to turn off Netflix or prime time TV so that they can work towards a goal or spend more intentional time their children. Not Everybody is going to not do social media for five days so that they can get five extra hours back to spend in their marriage. So live the life others won't so that you can live the life others can't.
Speaker 1:
6:14
You can design your life. And yes, sometimes the choices, um, to get out of bed and to not watch TV are more difficult. But that's a choice that you make so that you can live an amazing life and exceptional life, um, and work towards your goals and spend time with your children and design your life in a way that you're not wasting time and energy in areas that aren't serving you at this moment in time. So as promised, I said I would tell you what my buckets and what my categories are and I made all of mine bees just so that I remember them and it's kind of a stretch a little bit on what they are, but they're easy for me to remember. It's body, babies, business bond and building. And I'll explain what those are, but these are mind. Body is really anything that is my physical body, my health, my nutritional health, what I fuel my body with.
Speaker 1:
7:21
Um, exercising, self care, mindfulness, um, even a 10 minute bath, if I'm feeling really overwhelmed. And I tell my husband, Hey, can you watch the kids? I need 10 minutes to myself. So body is really all encompassing into myself and my health. So I have added that as a category that is where I can spend time in my life right now on myself. Babies are my children. Um, as mothers, we want to raise the best children that we can. And I believe strongly in being a role model to our children. And instead of projecting, you should, you know, stop crying, stop screaming, stop doing this. Um, if, if we as mothers can't get our own emotions under check, under control or in check rather than how can we expect our children to have their emotions under control. So a lot of times us as parents, and I was so guilty of this a few years ago, project the emotions that we don't have under control onto our children.
Speaker 1:
8:32
So if we show up for our babies more calm, more collected and in control of our emotions, then we can teach by setting an example, teach by example our children so that they can be, um, more, have their emotions more under control. But anyway, spending time with your babies. That is in my, um, one of my time buckets business. Currently right now I have a, a corporate job that I spend pretty much nine to five every single day and a long commute. Um, but I'm also starting this podcast, which is new and I want to create a community that serves women in that helps women feel motivated to be the best mothers and the best women and design the lives that they want. And so, you know, I'm setting that as a category of mine where I can spend time. Business Bond is my fourth one.
Speaker 1:
9:31
Bond is really the bond between myself and my husband. For you, that might be your significant other. My marriage bond has to come first, right? So I fell in love with my husband and we got married well before we had children. And we will be together well after our children leave. So I have to continue to feed that meter, feed that relationship so that that bond remains strong and that we can show up together as parents for our children, for our family, for our household. So these categories that I'm giving you have minor in no particular order because the marriage bond really needs to come first so that you can, you know, take care of the rest of your family. And last, my last bucket was building and that's really my home, my physical dwelling where I live. You know, our building. I am the, I'm a mother, I'm a wife, I am a homemaker, so I need to, I mean, I'm a homemaker and a corporate mother, but, but I do need to take care of the home.
Speaker 1:
10:43
So that's cleaning and cooking and dishes and laundry and all of that stuff, walking the dogs and all of that stuff. Certainly my husband helps, but that's a bucket that um, you know, I want to make sure I live in a tidy home, one that's not cluttered. I feel like our entire household runs more smoothly and I am more effective in everything that I do. We all are a little more effective in everything that we do if we live in a non cluttered, organized home and so those are my five areas that I'm focusing on in the next five weeks that I'm giving myself permission to focus my time solely on these five categories. Body, which is myself, my nutrition, my health, self care, my children, babies, business, bond with my husband, significant other and building, which is my home. Those are my five areas.
Speaker 1:
11:40
Your five categories might be different. You know, friendships are incredibly important. There's a lot of things in your life that might be really important. I'm just sharing with you right now, in, in my season of my life, I am putting these five categories first and saying, okay, I feel like I don't have enough time and I have a million things to do, so I'm going to prioritize what serves my life best right now. And those are the five categories that I'm saying. These are my most important priorities right now and these are the things that, um, I should be spending time on. So if I catch myself doing something that isn't in these categories, for instance, mindlessly surfing the web or watching youtube videos or TV or whatever that is, that doesn't fall into any of those buckets that doesn't move the needle to change my life and to design my life in the way that I want.
Speaker 1:
12:42
If I feel exhausted and, and I want self care, then I'm going to give myself permission to um, you know, maybe relax and listen to some music and meditate or take a bath, but be conscious of conscious of that time and be intentional with that time to make sure that it fills my cup back up so that I can in turn serve others so I can show up for my coworkers, my family and things like that. So ladies, I encourage all of you to look at, you know, where your time is spent and see if you have any time leaks in your days and weeks and where are you can sort of patch those up and refocus your time and energy into those category buckets that truly matter, that will truly move the needle and help you design the life that you want and the life that you deserve.
Speaker 2:
13:35
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Speaker 1:
13:42
enjoyed this podcast. You know, I so encourage you to share it with a friend or if you have time, please give it a review. It means so much to me and helps the podcast get out there to more women to help other women design the life that they want. Thanks so much.
Speaker 2:
14:03
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